I Have To

In previous postings I have talked about the power of words and the importance of becoming aware of our day to day language. Today I want you to start paying attention to the use of the words “have to” in your daily conversations with others and with yourself. Pay conscious attention to how many times each day you use the phrase “I Have to..”

 

• I have to teach inservice today.
• I have to teach recruits today.
• I have to drive the kids to (football, soccer, basketball, hockey, baseball, etc).
• I have to work on that use of force review today.
• I have to write that article I have been talking about.
• I have to increase the focus and intensity of my workouts.
• I have to get to the range to shoot.
• I have to work on updating that outdated presentation.
• I have to work on that new presentation.
• I have to work on updating those lesson plans.

When we use the term ‘Have To’ we tend to view the task as a chore rather than as a privilege. We see it as a burden rather than something to look forward to.  Just the use of those words tends to take a bit of the wind out of our sails and begin to drain our energy. We feel tired just thinking of all the things we “Have To” do.

Let’s take all those statements now and simply substitute the word ‘get ’ for the words ‘have’ and see what it does to the interpretation of the event or task.

 

• I get to teach inservice today, and enjoy the opportunity to build on their experience while enhancing their skills, tactics and knowledge.
• I have to teach recruits today, and help them develop the competence and confidence necessary for them to become effective law enforcement professionals.
• I get to drive the kids to football, (soccer, basketball, hockey, baseball, etc). ) and enjoy the fact that my kids are active and engaged in activities that will help them in every aspect of their lives.
• I get to work on that use of force review today, and use my knowledge and experience to help others understand the dynamics of use of force human factors.
• I get to write that article I have been talking about, and share my ideas with others.
• I get to increase the focus and intensity of my workouts, and improve my fitness and overall health.
• I get to get to the range to shoot, and improve my skills and abilities.
• I get to work on updating that outdated presentation, and bring some new life and new ideas to this program.
• I get to work on that new presentation, and create the opportunity to share new ideas with others.
• I get to work on updating those lesson plans, and ensure that officers are receiving the most up to date training possible.

It is amazing how just changing one word can change our perspective regarding daily tasks.

Do this for one week to start and notice the change it makes in your attitude and your life.

 

Take care.
Brian Willis